How to Juggle All the Things

Between trying to pursue a meaningful career, maintaining personal relationships, contributing to your community, caring for your body, mind, and spirit, and having some fun every now and then, overwhelm feels like a given. But it doesn’t have to be. 

Overwhelm feeds itself. When you're trying to juggle all the things and feel like you’re failing at most of them, the frustration, shame, and exhaustion of trying to do it all only wears you down further. When you get that underwater feeling, it’s time to hit pause and make plan to reset. I’ve got one for you.

How to Juggle All the Things 

 

1 | Reconnect to your long-term vision 

When you’re in the weeds, all you can see is weeds. One reason you’re struggling is because you’ve lost sight of the big picture.

Give yourself half an hour to daydream. Remember the life you wanted to build? The career you wanted to have? The kind of family and community you wanted to have? Oh, yeah...

Journal, make a vision board, write lists, or talk with a good friend about what it is you're working towards. Put a post-it note or some kind of visual reminder where you’ll see it every day as a reminder of what all the busyness is for. When you dial back into that sense of purpose, you’ll be calmer, more focused, and can make decisions more easily. 

 

2 | Eliminate some things 

When you’re doing too many things, an obvious solution is to stop doing some of the things. 

I know it may feel like you CAN’T, but I bet if you really took at look at everything on your plate, you’d find some things you could happily—and with little consequence—stop doing. 

Grab a copy of my Simplify Your Life workbook to help you with this. It’s eye-opening. 

 

3 | Think of all the things as part of a whole

This is my favorite trick: When you have a lot of things going on, it can really help to think of them as parts of a whole. Then instead of doing 17 unrelated things, you’re doing 17 things that are all contributing to a common goal. 

What’s your big goal, and how do all of these things contribute? What does everything you’re doing have in common? Are you working towards freedom? Towards self-expression? Towards courage?

Whatever it is, name it and it will help you feel more focused.

 

4 | Pick your top 3 areas to give attention to 

Once you’ve whittled down your commitments, it’s time to prioritize them. The easiest way to do this is to pick a top 3 for each week. 

So maybe this week the top 3 areas that will get your attention are family, health, and work. Maybe you will always pick those 3, or sometimes life will require that you mix it up and you find you have a week of work, family, community engagement. 

You can still make time for other areas of your life like fun, travel, and dating, but it helps to know what your focus is for the week.

 

5 | Don’t add new things 

Now that you’ve gone to all the trouble of reconnecting to your long-term vision, eliminating things, seeing things as a whole, and setting priorities, don’t gum it by adding more things into the mix. 

Declare a month of No New Things. That means making no new commitments for at LEAST a month until you feel like things are settling down. No new lunch dates, projects, nuthin'.

If you have trouble saying no to people, tell them that you’re having a No New Things month. They will probably me more curious than mad. And remember all the things your “no” will allow you to say yes to. 

 

Life can get overwhelming, but you probably have more power to change that than you think. 


How Focusing on Purpose can be a Career Game-Changer

The transition into purpose-driven, meaningful work can be intimidating. It involves taking risks, facing uncertainty, and trying new things. It takes courage. These Purpose Profiles spotlight clients who have done just that. They are men and women just like you, with bills, kids, debt, and dreams. Their career journeys all look a little different, but what they have in common is the pursuit of a career that feels like home. I hope getting a glimpse of their stories will inspire you. 

Here's Sarah's story...

What kind of work were you doing before we worked together, and how did you know that you needed to make a change in your career?

I am still working as a marketing manager at a large tech company, but I am working on my exit plan to move into my next career as a life coach. 

When I started this journey, I had not felt like I was passionate about anything--job, personal life…nothing. A friend pointed out to me that I was passionate about mentoring the co-op students that reported to me. She said I lit up when I spoke about my students and this led me to think about coaching and wondering if it was a viable career for me. 

Given my current job is really just helping a big company make money, it does not lend itself to enabling me to find any personal sense of fulfillment.

I knew I needed to really dig in and see of “coaching” was a viable career choice for me. I had a gut feeling that it was, and the more I did it in an informal sense, the more I realized that I was happiest when I had these types of discussions and less happy doing the “job”. That is when I found Laura. You can read more about this on my blog at: http://yourwholeheartedlife.ca/home/

 

What is your Homecoming Career, and what makes it meaningful to you? 

My Homecoming Career is being a life coach for women who are going through some sort of transition. My mantra is Guiding Women into Alignment with their Authentic Selves.

In my work with women, I am able to help guide them to what they already know deep inside. We all have answers to the questions we seek of ourselves, and it is my job to help my clients dig underneath whatever may be keeping them stuck and help them see things in a different light – a new perspective, but ultimately one that they already know. Typically we get underneath the Fear that is holding them back and allow their inner light to shine.

Doing this work lights me up in ways I had never imagined. I love what I do – hearing my client reach an aha moment of clarity is my favourite part of following this calling.

How has focusing on purpose changed things for you?

It has really been a game changer for me. Even though I am still working in my “old” career full-time, it has enabled me to truly follow my passion and do meaningful work in my personal time.

I do not have a sense of personal fulfillment in the “day” job at all.  It is a means to an end only. Being able to coach and to start the process of building a business that I can transition to full time, has given me a new sense of purpose and genuine feeling of doing something meaningful for myself and for others. 

I have had to dig deep and trust that I can do this work and I can truly see where this will take me in the future.  I have grown in so many ways during this journey and have healed many old wounds and that alone has been of huge value to me. I have a renewed sense of self, one that I am very proud of.

I am looking forward to the day of my exit from the day job and my entrance into full time focus of my coaching practice!

 

What would you tell someone who wants to do more meaningful work?

If you are tuning into your intuition and there is a little niggling in the back of your head to do this kind of work, please don’t ignore it.

You are receiving this message because you are meant to do it. It will just keep niggling at you until you take some action. It may be scary to think about making big changes in your life, but I promise you that it is totally worth it!

 

Where can we see more of what you do online?

www.yourwholeheartedlife.ca


13 Small Actions To Take When You Don't Feel Valuable

“I’m not valuable."

Most of us have that thought, or a variation on it, at some point in our lives. For others, it’s a default feeling and way of life. 

If you don’t feel valuable, you might: 

  • Stay at your crappy admin job because you think that’s all you can do
  • Tolerate abuse because you don’t want to lose the good parts of the relationship
  • Live vicariously through your friends, spouse, or kid because you don’t feel entitled to fun experiences
  • Stay silent in meetings because you think your ideas aren’t good enough
  • Make room for other people to have/do what they want at the expense of your health and happiness

If you don’t feel valuable, it not only influences the kind of life and career you have, it impacts what you even attempt to reach for. 

So if you don’t feel valuable, how can you start to turn that around? 

 

What To Do When You Don’t Feel Valuable

You will probably not have an overnight revelation that changes this view of yourself. You can work to shift your thoughts, but it's more important that you start taking small actions that mean "I have value."

 

Take Small Actions 

What does that look like on a daily basis?

  1. Offering your opinion.
  2. Speaking up in a crowded room.
  3. Sitting in the front row.
  4. Sending your order back when it's wrong.
  5. Sharing the artwork you keep secret with a friend.  
  6. Asking for nice birthday presents.
  7. Being the one to pick the restaurant instead of deferring to your friends. 
  8. Taking the time to set the table like company is coming over when it's just you.
  9. Spending that gift card that’s been in your wallet for 8 months—on yourself.  
  10. Saying “thank you” (and just “thank you”) when you get a compliment. 
  11. Saying “no” to things you don’t want to do.
  12. Asking for what you need.
  13. Asking for what you just want. 

Make a habit of exerting yourself. You can do this without being an a-hole, but give yourself the grace to know that you are finding the line of healthy entitlement and that you might step over the line sometimes. If that happens, you'll make it better. Sometimes you have to step over the line to find out where it is.

 

Why It Works

This allows you to build confidence over time. In your career, maybe you don't leap as far as some people will at first. But you get in a better situation. When that feels normal and safe, you up-level a little more. You can do this at your pace, challenging yourself to identify what you want and need.

 

Be Prepared for Pushback 

Be aware that when you start practicing "I have value" in your daily life, it can upset the people who have benefited from you not valuing yourself. They've been getting a pretty good deal, and now you're changing the rules! So be prepared for a little push-back, and gently keep pushing forward.

What’s ONE action that you can take TODAY that signifies “I have value”?